What Does Your Anger Look Like?
It's NORMAL to Get Angry.
People can't control when they feel angry. Anger is your nervous system's reaction to a situation that seems threatening. These threatening situations are called "stressors," and are the root cause of all stress. Whether you're frustrated you lost your pencil or pissed about something that really matters to you, your nervous system will give you a jolt of energy (ie. anger) to help you deal with the situation.Situations That Trigger Anger
You Are NOT Your Anger.
Think of Anger as a Little Friend.
Most of us have been told that it's not nice to be angry. You might feel a lot of shame or guilt around your anger, or even anxiety. This is why it's helpful to think of anger as a little friend who has come to visit. Underneath the anger, you are still calm and caring. You just have your little friend Anger visiting, who is trying to protect you. When you imagine anger as a protective friend who is separate from you, it's much easier to tolerate angry sensations while you figure out what you need to do next to help it calm down.Different Ways People Deny Their Anger
Your Anger Is Here to Help You
Mad Emotions Make You Feel...
Your chest tightening
Your jaw clenching
Your lips pursing or starting to frown
Your face flushing or your body overheating
Your fists tightening or your shoulders clenching
Your palms getting sweaty
Your body shaking or trembling
- You might also notice that you're speaking faster or louder, you're breathing quicker, and you might even develop pain in your body - like a headache
Wiggle Warriors Use Their Anger to Build Up Their Self-Esteem
"Self-Esteem" is your ability to trust yourself to be a responsible and caring human - even under stress. The more you know how to transform your stress into strength through practice, the more you will trust yourself to be responsible and caring no matter what the circumstance.
We don't expect you to know how to do this yet. That's what our Wiggle Warrior Training is for! A Wiggle Warrior is someone who chooses to face their emotions with curiosity and kindness, no matter how scary they are.
Yes, negative emotions are uncomfortable, but they are here to empower you! Your fear will make you courageous; your anxiety will make you responsible; your anger will make you passionate and assertive; and your sadness will make you empathetic and caring.
We know it's scary to face uncomfortable emotions. But the strength and resilience that come from doing this work is SO worth it.
Are you ready to become a Wiggle Warrior?